People whose identities don't conform to the norms within a community often feel isolated from that community. Figuring out how to fit in when you don't hew to the line of a group is an incredible challenge.

Bisexuals don't always feel at home in LGBTQ community and are often deliberately isolated from it.

Switches don't always feel at home in Kink community since many in BDSM appear to think you need to pick a side and stick with it.

Multiracial people don't feel entirely at home in either racial group. Not being specifically one or the other means they often feel outside both.

Polyamorous people who have casual sex or different relationship structures can be judged and considered not to be truly polyamorous.

Finding a place – like geek community – where many of the circles of interest intersect allows many of us to feel at home.

On this episode of On The Wet Coast, Flick and Kat Stark are discussing “Fitting In” with our special guest, Janet Rose. Find Janet on Twitter @SharpSweetBella or her blog

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