Ideally, when we’re meeting, dating, and sexing on people we want to be our best selves. We want to be feeling stable and settled and able to be present and focused for all the newness that might be coming our way. Unfortunately, circumstances are almost never ideal. Life constantly hits us with the unexpected–job loss, divorce, moving house, issues with kids, health issues, mental health issues, breakups–the list goes on and on.

Much of the time we need to figure out how to compartmentalize our other life issues so that we can open our hearts to new people and new experiences. That is way easier said than done, and not really that easy to say. In non-monogamy, we often have concurrent partners and heartbreak and it can be really tough to figure out how to grieve a relationship while maintaining or building another.

On this episode of On The Wet Coast, Flick and Kat are joined by Dirty Lola @DirtyLola of Sex Ed A Go Go to discuss Dating During Upheaval. We’ll try to figure out how to maintain your mojo while your life is more like mo-NO. 

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Music in this episode: Theme music – A Naked Gun: Bank Assault by Francesco D'Andrea

Episode music – Puzzle Pieces by Lee Rosevere

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